Thursday, 04 April 2013
i will start by saying i like this blog simply because i can let some of my emotion out and expresses my self a little more....
so as you all kinda had an idea about my old relationship with the " jerk guy " i could even call him the "asshole" well he deserves it .
so here what happened since i haven't really talked to him since the day we broke up and because of the crap he had done to me and stuff i had to him which effected my life in so many ways.
i wouldn't lie it still hurts but im over it . as i mentioned i haven't talked to him for while so he sent one of his friend to tell me that he misses talking to me lol like if i care or i would run back to him funny shit well i have done almost every things i could to him so no regret ... enough of this shit ! .
well lets to talk about my life.... well i got accepted in college :) im gonna be done with it in two months till summer .. i still have long way to graduate i can't wait for the day that i graduate from this college . so yeah im making my way in this life hopefully it turns out great eventually.
well i have been talking to this guy almost one year now i really like him but the distant is so hard .. i've been thinking in my head about saving some money n get to meet him .. i really like him a lot so i'm willing to give this a chance . on the other hand im really afraid that he might hurt me . i keep thinking what if we didn't meet up i will be heart broken and i know i will get sick after this .like i dont want to stop eating or can't be able to sleep at night . i just dont want the same shit happen to me over and over. i just want someone who treats me right
someone i could really see my self being with . im that type of person who get mad in love . like i would do stuff for him even if there were hard on me . i kinda feel bad for myself sometimes because no matter how much i give i dont get the same in return *sigh* i want to talk to him like all the time but i know like i should give him space .
i really can't wait till its june :P so 8 weeks from now !!! i really want to get on the plane and get to meet him . i want to see the real him and just hold his hand <3 or even kiss him :) that will be a dream come true :D wish me luck all !! <333
Friday, 02 March 2012
so here what it is .. i have been dating this guy for 5 years now and i tried so hard not to leave him this time becuz i have done it many times and i kept on coming back to him no matter what ... he cheated on me with another girl although he knows that i really love him n when i asked him why he did that to me he was like " im man with ballz i guess its normal " so the day after i couldn't even sleep or shut my eyes without thinking of him or crying so i came to a decision which let him go and that exactly what i did...after while she dumped him he came back to me saying im everything to him and he has no purpose living without me so i accepted it cuz i really loved him ... i've done everything i can for him and more, i even haven't eaten for whole month for him ...couldn't sleep well for him .. fought with my parents for him :'( and u know what the worst part of it all was ...WELL THAT i didnt go to college for him so yeah my life is messed up now but im trying on fixing it ...so after a while we got back together so he offered me an offer but i declined it for some reason ... and one day he questioned me about talking to his friend behind his back like if i have done that before and i told him the truth that i didn't he was like " yup u lied " ..he doesnt even trust me n doesnt believe me ..how can i gain his trust when he isnt giving me a chance to?..and he thinks that im the cheater when the fk he cheated on me i didnt say anything about it after all... i dont quite get it he cheats and thinks that i have cheated on him like what the fk seriously man ?!?! ...after all that drama i said to my self thats it im gonna end this shit so again i was letting go of him and i told him that i would leave him this time too and they day after i came back to him crying telling him that i cant let go of him and i need him ..i was having hard times i needed him to be there for me not making things even worse and told him that i would try my best this time to make this work out but cant do it all by my own i told him i need him there for me … and he was like "thank u for the offer but i'll past " thats broke me into pieces :"( and not just that he replaced me so fast saying that " i mean nothing to him now and he will move on " so now u know what it is ... feel free to comment guys cuz i really need help here :"(
Monday, 25 July 2011
Getting over someone can sometimes appear to be impossible. It feels really bad when you fall in love with someone you can’t have. It feels even worse when you are sure that this relationship can never work out. I think that this is the worst thing that could ever happen to someone. I believe that to forget someone is one of the hardest assignments given in life, especially if you had this gut feeling that he/she is the ONE. Therefore all of these thoughts crossing my mind drove me deeply into the psychology of what is called falling wrongly into love.
Getting over someone you love will be a matter of weeks if not days.
If you think that pain is an essential part of love, if you think that lovers should suffer then stop reading. However, if you believe that exaggerated attachment is something that hinders you from living a happy life and if you believe that this pain is unnecessary then keep reading. Breakups won’t hurt like they used to, you wont label anybody as the one from now on and recovery is going to take place much faster.
How to get over someone you love
Since I am not a magician, I can’t say that a simple writing will do the job, and this pain won’t disappear in a blink of an eye, but remember, reading this will make you feel as you are a step closer to get rid of this pain that unfortunately could last for years.
Figuring out how to get over someone you love can be one of the most difficult things that any of us will ever have to do. The pain of loss can be very intense and finding the answers can be like looking for a needle in a haystack. You need to know that it will take a lot of time and some days will be harder than others. If you have been with someone for a long period of time, their absence can make you feel like a part of you is missing, like you just had your heart ripped right out of your chest. But once you discover how to get over someone you love, the pain in your heart will lessen and you sill start feeling more like your old self again.
Sometimes I wish I could just smack the idiot that came up with the phrase “Time heals all wounds“. Actually, the person that said that, is right. You may not want to hear this but, time is the exact remedy needed for this wound. That being said, it does not mean that you have to like it. I know that I never did. There are ways for you to take an active approach in helping time heal you a little faster though.
Start by ditching the photos. You do not need the constant visual reminder of happy times spent with that person drawing your attention at every turn. Throw away or put in storage any of their belongings that they have left behind. You may also want to consider trying to stay away from some of the places that the two of you used to hang out at. You will never find out how to get over someone you love if you are constantly running into them.
Don’t be afraid to use your friends as a sounding board. In most cases they have been through a painful break up too. Spend as much time with them as you can. When you are having a good time with friends, your mind will be occupied and you will not be thinking about that person so much. Just because you are trying to figure out how to get over someone you love does not mean that you should stop living your life. I know that this can be a very trying time in your life. Losing someone you love is never easy. But there is one thing that you may not have considered. Is it really and truly over between you and your loving person? If you really do love them it may be possible for you to get your loving person back. You can lose the love of your life due to both of :being foolish, stubborn, and too proud to admit that you are really in love and needed . Of course, you are the only one that can decide if the love you have is worth saving. If there is even a possibility that you can save your relationship, you really need to give it a try.
A Painful Process
To get over someone you love you have to realize that there are no easy answers. No matter how ready you think you are, the fact that you are asking yourself how to get over someone you love, means that it is going to be a painful process. It can be a slow process You might think you are over someone and a year later being reminded of that person and feel sad again. That does not mean that you’re not overcome the loving person.
If you are emotionally invested in a supposed relationship and it ends, it could make you feel sad for years. Maybe even for the rest of your life. But that does not mean the sadness has to make you feel depressed. You can get over your loss and still know that it made you sad. It’s the period of time soon after the loss that will be the hardest to get passed. This is the period where you ask yourself how to get over someone you love and she does not love you back.
If the break up is a fresh one usually the only way to get over the pain is to face it straight out and let time pass. It is going to hurt, no matter what you do. But there are some things you can do to lessen the pain. Start with removing noticeable visual reminders of the person if possible. Pictures of them can be put away for now. Gifts they gave you can also be put away for now. Avoiding the places you used to go together is a good idea as well. This tip can be found in lists everywhere on how to get over a lost love so it is at least a popular idea that is worth trying.
Living Life after the Breakup
If you are having difficulty living your life after the breakup, it might be a good idea to seek counseling. Simply let the counselor know that you just went through a break up and ask the counselor how to get over someone you love. They can offer you better advice than a generic list about how to get over someone you love. They can also offer better advice than family and friends.
Friends and Family
Your friends and family may feel they know your situation too well. Some of them may even have motives to help you get over the person who does not love you back. They might have not liked the person so they want you to get over them quickly and move on to someone else. With a counselor you can privately tell them things you would not want your friends and family to know.
If you seek out counseling you should continue to see them for as long as you need to. If the counselor feels like you are dwelling on the breakup longer than you need to, they will let you know.
- I am going through this right now. For those of you whose situation is similar, this is what I suggest: Deal with reality. Stop hoping, dreaming, etc. Pray and tell God that you forgive them for not being able to love you. Ask God to take this from you – and He will. Then continue to deal with reality. Don’t tell yourself, maybe someday… they’ll change… True love accepts the person for who they are, even when they are evil and they don’t love you. It means accepting reality. When you love and accept reality at the same time, you are forced to move on. When you deal with reality and move on without love, you take bitterness with you. When you love without dealing with reality, you hurt yourself. Love the other person, Accept the reality and pray to God for the wisdom and strength you’ll need to do that continuously until it ceases to become a problem.
- Try not to be in contact because its almost like an addiction. You think that one little text will do no harm but the pain when he doesn’t reply will just make things worse.
- Time…. Letting yourself grieve and actually being ok with that. Not forcing yourself to get over someone. Allow yourself to feel the hurt, cry, write about it, listen to sad songs. Soon you will feel so tired from hurting all of the time. You will be ready to move forward. Doing this without contact of the person you love is best. Anyone that will still see you, sleep with you, and spend time with you, knowing they don’t love you, and knowing how you feel, is selfish. Everyone deserves more than that. You can’t force love out of your heart so don’t try, that just hurts worse and you end up lying to yourself. You are human for loving, but you have to love yourself more. I do agree with comments on staying busy, friends and family also help. Casual dating can backfire however, because if the dates don’t go well, it will just make you miss the person you love even more. Pray, and remember the good times but learn from the bad. Don’t you want, one day, to be truly happy? Life is to short to give up the chance of true love for yourself. Go out into the world and continue to be the wonderful person that you are. Someone will see this, and love you just as much as you are capable of loving.
- maybe you should really think, are they the one for me? And do i really love them?
- You have no choice but to get over this person… let them go and move on.
Tuesday, 07 June 2011
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